Ode to the Handjob

Ode to the Hand job
I absolutely love hand jobs—giving and receiving can both be so enjoyable, and no matter what kind of body you have, it probably feels pretty great to rub some part of it.  The fact that hand jobs are so darn safe is icing on the cake!  I worry that too many people focus on sexual intercourse so exclusively that they forget about the incredible buildup and release of a well-done hand job.   Some may think it is kind of a high-school thing to do and have memories of feeling awkward, bored, or impatient during the process.  If you can identify with that, I would encourage you to consider another approach to hand jobs!  With patience, a playful attitude, and a good lubricant, you can give hand jobs that leave people squirming with pleasure and beaming huge smiles, looking at you with an expression that says “You are a super hero of satisfaction!”
I believe that if people have confidence in their ability to give fabulous amounts of pleasure with their hands, they will be able to have super hot sex that is relatively safe even in situations where they may not know their partner very well.  That is so cool!  The thick skin that is on the hands is pretty good at protecting you from STI causing germs that can easily infect the sexual body parts, mouth, and anus, and there is no pregnancy risk with hand jobs, as long as you don’t get semen on your hand and then put it in a vagina.  Awesome orgasms with very little risk?  Yes, please!  And if you want to be super duper safe, you can wear gloves.  The texture of a snugly fitting rubber glove feels smooth and sensuous on your delicate skin, and protects both the giver and receiver from unwanted germs.  The Smitten Kitten carries both latex and nitrile gloves in black…which looks pretty sexy, if I do say so myself.
So how do you get good at giving hand jobs?  Here are my recommendations:
Non-verbal communication is huge!  Having an excited smile on your face makes the receiver feel like they can relax and enjoy.  Find yourself a comfortable position so you can move freely without your arm getting tired.  Let them know you are having fun.  Plan on spending some playful time on this. They will love the attention you are paying to their body!
Lube is critical! I like silicone or oil based lube for penises (check out Stroke 29) and silicone or water based for vaginas.  Lube makes hand jobs a thousand times better!  It even comes in handy trial sized packets for easy transport, so you can impress your favorite person with your skills even if you aren’t at home!
Learn some moves!  There are some great resources out there on how to give a good hand job.  A seasoned hand job veteran, I thought I knew everything.  Then I watched Penny Flame’s Expert Guide to Hand Jobs with my partner, and there were a few things I saw demonstrated that I had never really tried out before.  I gave it a go, and had tremendous success with my new skills.  I must admit, my partner picked up a thing or two as well.  I am eternally grateful to Penny Flame!  If books are more your style, I would suggest Jay Weisman’s Tricks to Please a Woman or Tricks to Please a Man.  These people know what they are talking about!
Dear friends, let us not forget the long lost art of the amazing hand job! Don’t think of it as a means to an end, but as an activity that is hot all on its own. If it has been a while, try it out and see what kind of fun you can have with one of the coolest sex toys ever created—your hands!